Saturday, July 19, 2008

We Don't Fit

Why is it that there are certain leaders I just can't get comfortable with? I see that other people enjoy dancing with them, that they are sought after and respected, but I just don't like the dance.

Actually, it might not be the dance. I never get far enough to know. I just can't seem to settle into their embrace. I'm not comfortable and I just don't feel a connection. I've tried other ways of centering myself to their body, other ways of adjusting my left arm (where I get a LOT of communication about their movement), focusing and not focusing. Nothing seems to fix it.

For some reason we can't sink into eachother. It's not their fault. It's not my fault. We just aren't a good match.

But WHY? It just doesn't seem right.

I'm not going to dance with them anymore. I always feel yucky afterwards, and I think they do too. I'd love to know them well enough to ask why we don't match, and to see if we can experiment to remedy it, but I don't know them that well yet. Maybe in time.


Smirking Cat said...

I am far from any kind of dancer, but one time I took Latin dancing lessons, I was dancing with a guy who looked increasingly frustrated, until he finally blurted out, "Can I lead now?" Ha ha. Just my nature to lead, I suppose. I didn't even realize I stole his thunder until he said something.

Mtnhighmama said...

I have a couple posts somewhere in the blog about backleading. I think it can be hard not to do it if you hear the music, at least in the beginning.

Did you stop taking classes? Why?