Saturday, November 15, 2008

Easing back in

I think I could probably handle a tanda or two in a night, but I feel very out of (dance) practice, kinda shy, and very fragile. So, I'm a little hesitant to dance at my normal events. I'd really like to ease my way back in, dance with friends only (ones that would understand if I couldn't make it through a whole tanda), and go slow. But I'm hesitant to go to the normal events because there are lots of people I don't want to dance with and I can't figure out how to gracefully navigate the who I do want to dance with and who I don't want to dance with thing. Not because of those people, really, but because I feel so off my game and so physically unwell that I don't think I could handle a tanda with someone that I wasn't also completely socially comfortable with.

Any thoughts on this?


ModernTanguera said...

Does the general tango community know that you are pregnant? We have a couple pregnant tangueras in our community, and everyone is very understanding if they don't dance at all or dance very little when they make it out to milongas.

Even with people who don't know, you could probably just let them know that you aren't feeling up to dancing much.

Alyce said...

I agree. The salsa and swing crowds have always been very understanding if someone wasn't feeling well enough to dance much - everyone knows that the love of dance is too much to stay away completely! :)

Mtnhighmama said...

Thanks for the boost. Sometimes I forget that milongas are also social events. I think I'll go for a bit tonight, to just say hi. I'll bring shoes (because I'd be a fool not to) but I don't think I'll dance. That feels like more than I can offer at the moment.

Lisa said...

Hey there - I hope you have a great time tonight. I think about you often and I hope you are doing well.

Anonymous said...

Would love to know how this went.

I am constantly fascinated by how we feel so comfortable being totally candid on-line, and paralyzed with faux-pas phobia in life.

Maybe a simple "I haven't been feeling well, and am dancing just two or three tandas. I'm sorry this isn't one of them :-)".

PS - hope you're feeling better.

koolricky said...

maybe a pratica??